Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Have you tried couples counselling, yet are still feeling irritated or in judgement of your spouse?




Is your partner driving you nuts? Is it getting worse every time you see them? Do they do this "thing" that irritates you to no end? Most of us chalk this up to them having a character flaw and do all that we can to keep away from them.

Remember the old adage: what you see in others is what you dislike in yourself. Great. "Wonderful wisdom"... you say, but "there is NO WAY I am anything like them!"

Perhaps you entertain this notion and accept the possibly that you also possess this trait that you can't stand. What does one do with this pearl of enlightenment?

When we look at this situation from from the viewpoint of energy and consciousness, we can begin to gain some insight. Firstly, we are all energy, our thoughts, emotions, bodies and spirit. We are really not separate from one another, it just seems that way. We (humans) vibrate as a single whole with everything else on this planet and this universe. This is what it means to say we are all One.

If you consider that we are in fact all "One," then we all have every aspect of the whole sea of energy within us. When we are not at ease with a particular aspect of another person, it suggests that there is and energy block within ourself, that this person's presence triggers in us.


If you are finding yourself triggered by someone, you may want to ask yourself a few questions:

What qualities or traits am I judging or finding irritating? Make a list.

Have I ever acted in this way?

If yes, what happened to me as a result?

Was is painful?

Do I feel a tightening, pain, restricted breathing, or discomfort in my body when I am around this person as they are expressing this trait?



Have you recalled a time when you acted in the way you are currently judging in another? You also may have remembered getting hurt for being this way. We tend to want to get rid of what causes us pain or feelings of unacceptance, so it is quite possible that you have repressed this trait into your subconscious mind, where you could forget that you ever had it.

You probably never showed that part of yourself again for fear you would be shamed, hurt or embarrassed for possessing it. Repressing aspects of ourselves creates energetic blocks that hold the anger, pain and hurt related to the initial traumatic experience. Our bodies tell us where the energy is blocked by tightening, creating pain, shortness of breath as well as other symptoms.

Now this energy pattern needs to be expressed somehow, because it is difficult and exhausting to hold it inside all the time. So what do we do? We project it out onto people who express this quality or trait at a conscious level. We make them wrong, we judge them and believe that all the irritation they make us feel is their fault.

The truth is, this "annoying" person is showing you an aspect of yourself that you need to love and accept.

So we return to the question, what can I do about it?

One of the best ways of bring yourself back in to balance is energetic healing. Working with an energy healing practitioner is an effective and powerful way to release these rejected aspects so that you can return to happy peaceful relationships.

Are you in conflict with someone in your life? Contact Full Circle Energy Healing today to experience greater freedom within yourself and in your relationships with others.


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